OWNERS PRIDE-NEIGHBOURS ENVY

I hope by now many of us would have forgotten,these numbers   38  27  23 and 0 2  4(its definetily not some telephone no or a winning lottery no or the size of any of our celebrity).It is the final tally of Medals won by China our neighbouring country in the order of gold ,silver,and bronze  and the adjoining numbers is that of our Mother land
well there is nothing to accuse  us,if we have forgotten, because,in our busy life  wth problems galore it is quite understandable, that we could give only a partly  attention  to these events and than switch over to much presenting situations and events drawing our attention.
well I was reminded about our fantastic(?)performance in the Olympics 2012. At least half the population of our country are enthralled by the pride of we bagging six medals.Lets not belittle our Hero's ,who have saved our pride they deserve our praise and recognition,But our neighboring country having and sharing all similar strength and weakness as ours showed a mighty performance,which we can match only in our dreams.(perhaps recall a advertisement where a small boy comes and says amma i came 2nd in the running race, where the mother is thrilled and treats him with sweets,while the father asks how many people participated and the boy will say 2)
While some news channels were discreetly discussing about our dismal performance in the OLYMPICS and as usual,doing a postmortem for the probable reasons for our poor show.(WE are always ready to fix responsibility after allowing mistakes to happen)
Well, the reasons what were attributed were quite genuine and  acceptable,like
i)We are capable to prove some thing as an individual,but fail collectively,when we are a team,very
true,because all the six medals  what came through was only in individual events (A typical Indian crab scene)
2)The next argument that was placed were regarding ,not having the backing of good coaches,because we are not prepared to give them the right kind of re-numerations,And the coaches in turn do not have the required motivation and drive to achieve desired results
well this again can be accepted,because we are over cautious in extending a penny more ,when it comes to some one else .As we are bread with a lot of conservative ideas.
The next in line was that
3)There is no real seriousness in the selection process,which is not transparent,which is more skewed and laced with discretion and nepotism,where by the just and talented lot are not considered,while people with lesser talents find their way."Very true"we can see this even in small ,small selection process,so cannot be ruled out.
But after  these soul searching facts, are we going to overcome these hurdles and put a brave
face in the forth coming Olympics" NO" Why?Because these are very minor things for us to feel
ashamed of,"After all we do not process  the gene of sucess and victory"

I know there may be a cry of denial that this is a very generalistic statement and we as individuals are far superior and quite sucessful,but if we believe that as per darwins theory we are the decendents of our fore fathers,we will agree that ours was the only country that has been  invaded
and ruled by kings of different clans,from the Portugese,French, Britisher,Mugals(persians)
and than the different dynasty's kanishka, Gupta, Ashoka .etc. ect ,which means we are capable of surrendering without a fight or its in our blood that we underestimate the strength of our opponents or we never prepare ourself fot the inevitable,which is carried forward, or not enhancing our skills in tune with our opponents and that's why I said we do not contain the winning gene.

Well leaving these things,how many of us have really seen a Hockey stick in its physical form,
After all it is our National game.To be very frank I have seen them only on the silver screen(cinema).Many times for the wrong reason ,as a handy weapon used by villians in movies.And for once with a positive note in Chakde india.Why is it that we have not really cared about this game?Is it too complicated than cricket and tennis? well I have no answers but only feel its time that we choose some other game in which we have a edge and declare it as our National game.So that atleast we would be proud to put our heads High with winning a gold in our "national game.'"
While just musing over this I was intrested to know what are the sports accessories I have at home
well I  could sight two table tennis raquets a few batamintion bats a few shuttle cock,a volley ball
and a tenni coit ,well these are there even thou there no serious sports person at home.and I an sure that many houses would definetly have a cricket bat,stumps,pads and ball(after all its a pride to play cricket) or at least to identify our self with cricket But note that no house sports a hockey stick, even for monumental reasons,just for the sake that its a OUR NATIONAL GAME.So with this back ground when are we going to get a gold  in Olympics? for our National game.The only thing that can happen would be that Hockey is scraped from the list of games hosted and some thing else subsitute.as our national came.
When I was stormed with such mixed feelings of helpless- ness I was just viewing yet another TV programme,were a guest dignitary is posted with a question by the host ,which is the favourite game that you play ?  well I was eager to know the response and was shocked ,when She said" Diamond rush" MIGHT BE ON HER MOBILE OR I PHONE.so ultimately now  OUR ATTITUDE towards games has been  restricted to a few  movements of our nimble fingers,so why dream  about a huge rally of medals, lets always be the envious neighbor and leave the pride for others





   

Public speaking_AN ART

Many of us have experience this feeling of discomfort occasionally or as often as possible,we rarely felt at  ease over it, right from our child hood.Recall  our teacher called us to either read out a paragraph aloud in the class or asked us to answer a question or recite a poem.The moment that we are made to stand up and say some thing, invariably many of us barring a few  would have experienced,cold hands,trembling legs dried vocal cords and either stammered out the answers fumbling many times, if it was a question,read out in a monologue skipping words and sentences in fear if it was a reading test or hissed out under our breath croaking out some ineligible soundsif it was some response.
This physological fear has continued to dominate  us even today.The Most disguting part of any meeting is the Self introduction  portion,Many times I have even noticed people forgetting their names .We sit in  important meetings intently attending and acknowledging what ever is being told,but the moment a question is Raised asking about our comments or feedback, we rarely express our-self, in spite of having all the data in hand,ever imagined what could be the reason. well, its quoted that Next to death,the second feared item for any human is public speaking.
 We always admire people who can speak out spontaneously and wonder where from they have been gifted with this special talent(of course we often forget that we too have this in our blood,have we ever lost any of our quarrels/arguments with your spouse,parents,mother in law etc etc,where you just get all the vocabulary that you have never used in a free flow,amazed at your power of rememberance ,cause you can quote every instance of injustice or annoyance that you met with, How many Examples and quotes we are capable of throwing out) But why do we fail when it comes to saying a few words in public,  in front of a select group of audience.
Speakers also have their share of apathy,while we listen to some speakers intently and  want them to go on you may find them winding up.and in some other occasions,we may just keep waiting for the speaker to say those last words of conclusion amidst of booeing and claps to bid them an early exit.If we make a crisp analysis it may turn out that not all successful people are good speakers.But invariably all goods speakers have been real success in their chosen paths of progression

If we dole on the the essential attributes that makes anyone a better speaker.,the first and fore most maybe the content and information what is to be discussed.
INTERESTING:Every one of us would agree that we are really impressed with an interesting talk rather than an intelligent speech,and to make any content interesting it has to be laced with good anecdotes and topped with good humour,, just to recall all of us enjoyed the pattimandram speech of 5 minutes, better than the long drawn speeches on our Independence day. And the reasons can be guessed by all.The earlier speech was instantaneous,it had originality,and entwined with emotions. The later was a pre prepared speech,which depended more on the type of delivery,and was made flat by the speakers for lack of emotion and a bad preperation
We cannot set aside that all political speeches are monotonic,we should not forget that only with this single weapon of such inspiring and power packed speeches, the people have identified their leaders,not to miss Abraham Lincon, Mahatma Gandhi, Winston Churchill and WHO ARE STILL looked up with great respect for their prowess on public speaking,which were inspiring,motivating and had very strong messages to be carried forth.
When we were young we have heard our neighbours or parents commenting,வாய்  உள்ள பிள்ளை   பீழைத்து  கொள்ளும் (A child with speaking skills will survive all odds)And that looks a reality that of late the best paid people are motivational speaker, politicians, radio jockeys,news analysts and those umpteen number of consultants and religious spiritual gurus, who are capable of selling any thing thro their uninterrupted speech.
So lets not fear any more to speak out what we can with courage and with out any inhibitions, After all practice makes perfect so we can also be one among the good speakers

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IN SEARCH OFF.......

My day is not complete,without this activity ,Its as routine a thing as I wake up,brush my  teeth, Do my hair,visit the grocery.etc.etc.well I know that you would  not have zeroed in on it.
well for me a day is not complete without this activity."Me searching in vain for a item thats presumed  lost".(while it most probably would have been misplaced).
If you are one of those persons,whose is quite syestamatic and well groomed,would exclaim how very silly for a person to be so careless,who cant take care of such trivial things?
Well you would be amazed if I tell you that I  lose (misplace) things only because I  want them to be safe and in my continuous monitor where they are I shift them to safer spots??  AND FORGET WHERE IT LANDED ULTIMATELY ending with Me searching for some thing every day.
There are days  when I switch off and go to bed and suddenly remember some thing and sit up and search.when it comes to what are the items I search, it varies,right from a safety pin to a precious jewel and the efforts what I put in for both the items  are the same.
God only knows how  even a printed receipt of no value. becomes precious the moment I come to know that it is missing.
Even thou the activity of searching is labourious and painful, these are the moments which makes my day,For I am sure that at the end of this activity  I  will end up finding  some thing else which evaded my search earlier .well these are the instances when I come across items of memories,
I go around searching for a guarantee card  and land up with a bunch of letters written by my loved ones so the guarantee card takes a second least priority and I sit down with the letters and start reading them one after the other  relating myself to the days and moments,so many flash backs and short films unroll and I give up my search for the guarantee card,well for the day my quota to search has ended with good reminiscent.
Next day suddenly I remember that I have to take stock of some of my accessories and now i am in the midst of all items spurn around me, but the accessories kit is no where to be seen, while i have located the guarantee card and of course fumbled on one of my favorite Music /CD and now the urge to listen to it has put my searching spree to a back seat,
like this there are many items of interest in our possession, but we never bothered to spend time with, which shows up in a search,A old photo album, A Book from your favorite author,A gift from you small kid,A card from your son/daughter.A dress that you dont fit into but which was presented by your dad for your birth day,A report card of your young  days,which you scared to see,which made you to smile now.Like this we unravel so many small ,small happiness in this process of searching,which ultimately makes" MY day" even thou the worry about that missed item still lingers.
Well the most recent Search,which I  am involved in is for a nail cutter,the moment I saw my nails,I could'nt resist the urge that it requires a trimming and once this feeling sets in,I can do nothing else and my whole energy is focused only on cutting the nails and good heavens I cant find it, well the search continued with different outcomes,but not the nail cutter,so having given up on it today I was on a search for my pen,losing pens is my hobby,bu ETC..but some thing told me that even if I dont succeed in finding my red pen.I would find the nail cutter,Very true I am holding the nail cutter .SO hope to get the pen some other day, while I search for some thing else.
With my endless PATIENCE for searching I have understood the following
Search makes your Monotonous life lively
Search helps you to remember  the little happiness,which you deserve
Every search results in getting more lost items
You only lose some thing,when you give up your search
You really do not know what is its worth unless you have lost it
so putting it back into the known adage ,KNOCK it will open.
ask you will get,Search you will find
And lastly lets not restrict our search to worldly things but also  the GOD within us,Which Iam sure that we will find if the search is not given up.