ADDICTION

Recently I was reading a book of Robin Sharma, The author best known for his Best seller "The monk  who sold his Ferrari"were He was giving an elaborate guide to develop good practices for a healthy and peaceful life.One of the aspect that drew my attention was a saying by him where he quotes that any activity that is practiced regularly for 21 days,becomes a habit and its very difficult to break that routine.
May be people who are into such activities and already addicted to something can throw more light on this statement,However I have been addicted to some thing in the recent past and i really find it difficult to quit. Wait .Wait,....just don't imagine, something extreme off late. I have been addicted to computer games and the reasons why I cannot quit can be seen as a real personal experience of our ego level.
Well I Really hated people,when sighted playing solitaire or free cell on the computer and often had a very low esteem on such people.Me on the other side would always try to play a game of chess on the computer(often feeling that it suited my intellectual mind)And as you all could guess I used to invariably lose the game against the computer,thou a loss would disturb me momentarily,I would console myself,saying, yeah this is natural. I am just Human and cannot rate my intelligence against a computer.
But repeated defeats,was really driving me mad,(I hope people know that I do not like to be a loser)So I wanted to try some thing much easier, which would boost my self confidence ,by giving me some winning streaks,having seen many people playing card games I was lured to try my luck on that.
 I started with the game of spider solitaire, and when I lost my first game I could not take the defeat as casually as that of the chess game.My ego was hurt terribly that I could not even play such a silly game of Cards,and it never occurred to me that ,here again my opponent was a computer.My rage was raising and I was doing nothing else but playing the game again and again,to register a win.,
This is when I  sympathized  with so many people who get addicted to gambling and other casino games,and indulge in playing again and again,losing huge money.
I understood that it was not the money lost,that  triggered  them to play again and again ,but the lost EGO,the I factor,the insult why i should lose in front of others,if any other person can win,than why not ME?
well this is when i recalled,the bad name earned by Dharuman in Mahabarath,inspite of being a Gem of a person ,righteous in all ways,the biggest blunder was He playing a game of Dice against SAGUNI(an expert computer) He could not perceive a loss as a loss in game but as a loss of his Ego,His successive attempts to play the game pitting his kingdom, brothers ,one by one and his wife as bids at last was not in an attempt to redeem,them one by one ,But just to establish his Ego and maintaining the I factor.
Well to my surprise I started,winning a few  card games.But now i found yet another component of my ego showing up,The score,each time I won a game,the statistic showed a top score as per that computer,well now I wanted to invariably,race that score(again the I factor)It was immaterial to me , who ever was the top scorer,It had to be ME.So  i started  playing the game, every single moment available,I was hooked on to the system playing the game,improving the score,I thought once I crossed the high score I would stop playing
(did i not say i hate people playing card games on the computer).I am the high scorer now ,but I cannot stop playing,because I want to beat my own record(Again the I factor)to see what can be the maximum limit to touch,set a score as high as possible, so that it is always ME,and none else.This is when I was again drifted into realistic life situations,Do we really see life in the real perspective as that of this game,if it was so we would never,give up so easily and settle down with our mediocre performance,in the various roles we do.How often do we want to surpass the financial targets assigned to us?How do we relate ourselves with our colleagues and other family members?How many times do we tell to ourself that I should be the Best person, AMONG ST every one here be it in terms of Character,intelligence,performance or Humane,Where does our dominant Ego,The I factor,hide when it comes to such relevant activities,which can take us to great heights.
Well not to Forget,off late,I am occasionally winning in the chess game too against the computer,which has given me an extra boost,persistent attempts,leads to success well Robin Sharma also says you have to put 10000 hours to master any activity,might be i am proceeding towards that,
 Don't forget success breeds success,and its highly contagious,keep highly sucessful people by your side, think and have the right attitude to win,"you will win"

WOMAN MANAGERS(Bosses)

Its really a matter of pride for all of us,to see woman,especially Indian woman occupying high positions and contributing their might in the progress and economical development of our country.Some may feel irritated, for me using the word, Indian woman and even felt whether it was meant to degrade them ,Not at all,It required a special Mention only because thou,our Ancestors and forefathers have assigned very high values on woman Equated them to Mother Earth,Bharath matha,and given us the status of the three important Goddesses around which, the whole world revolves the one for wealth lakshmi,the one for knowledge Saraswathi,and the other for courage and val our Sakthi.
we have been culturally tuned to donn the role of conservative woman.who have been   domesticated, and trained for bringing up the next generations and for looking after the house hold activities.
Revolutionary thinkers ( woman )did exist, during different eras,but their numbers were just a few ,with not any big Margins.
The transition of woman  taking part in jobs,were quite few in numbers and they much preferred to settle them selves with  jobs such as teaching,,Receptionists,Telephone operators And doctors,nurse  and clerical, where their roles were having limited level of comfort either feeling more comfortable communicating. with a group,which would not raise their voices because of the relationship   student-teacher,doctor-patient,boss-secy,Manager-clerk,further,it was a preconceived myth that woman,by and large,were not designed to hold managerial positions,since they lacked,Executive ability(the knack of getting work done),orderly minds(often wavering )emotional stability(chicken hearted)and leadership skills
But today round 35% of woman employed in various fields are holding Managerial and above positions,which is a remarkable feat,since 3 out of 10 are leading their teams of work force.
I have often wondered how comfortable  A man might feel,reporting  to lady managers and executing or getting orders issued by their lady bosses
But with the existing.stastics what is stated above,I think they have taken it with ease and the amount of conflicts and ego clashes that occur between a woman boss and a subordinate man is much less
compared to the issues that erupt between a lady boss and a lady subordinate.
I have observed men not grumbling about their bosses(lady)and in fact do not hesitate to discuss any work related problems and seek their advice.While on the contrary a lady reporting to a lady boss has more heart burn stress and ego clashes and her boss occupies her mental space both at office and at home.
This again made me to think on the issue and here are some of my personal idea.
The gender difference and safe guards that a lady has, invariably makes a man to deal with her in a very cautious way and he underplays his Macho card while in work.And is very alert not to de rate or demean her which would cost his job.
Further it is quite understandable that taking orders from a woman is no new thing for a man,Being brought up by a mother and growing up with his sibling sisters, he always feels it a pride to go with their orders/views/wishes(and at a later stage from his wife)and never feels it as a insult. So the conflicts are very rare.Have we ever heard a son in law ever having any issues with his mother in law never.......
Now on the other side,lets see how comfortable is a boss- subordinate relationship between two woman, awful,I should say  the first point of conflict arises,with a comparison on, intelligence looks,dressing,the amount of support or influence that they get from their men colleagues and  instead of carrying forward the job assigned to them and maintaining a healthy office atmosphere they get involved in conflicts on each issue an with inflated ego the tendency of refusing to execute any order or extending a note of appreciation becomes a rare occurance and the reason behind this if seen with an emotional angle would reveal that any lady would try to exhibit the in law syndrome(mother in law or sister in law)  disgust,mistrust and  view the other person only on that scale and hence the level of ease and capability of women gets crushed in this process.
So it   requires a real soul searching to be done by woman managers who excel excellently as a boss individually,but fall out miserably while ,handling her senior or junior woman colleagues.which requires to sheld away the personal injuries what is inflicted to her by the society and family.which remains as a ind-eligible scar very difficult to heal,giving rise to such interpersonal problems

CROSSWORD AND LIFE'S LESSONS

We are all born equal besides the major differences of gender,socio- economic conditions ,culture,etc,while some of us do have the best opportunities to enjoy and have all the adventures and treasures in life,some are not fortunate enough to even have a morsel of hot gruel,but would have had many experiences what the former can never even get..
Well how many of us can  spend some time observing the world around us,watch the few birds crippling,see the new flower bloomed in our pot,which is awaiting for our side look,and of course the daily news paper,which is never failed to be delivered.Leaving aside those colorful advertisements,which can spoil your day,not interested in the first few pages,where the life line of our county is debated,we conveniently skip to the last pages to scan on the sports session,even thou we know what it would carry,we do not want to miss staring at a photo which was already telecast n number of times on the TV well that's were our interest lies,what about the other entertainment stuff such as Sudoku,jumbles and crosswords,well many times, we avoid, attempting them for the following
we at times(many times) underestimate our intelligence,so guess it is for nerds
we do not have enough time to spend for such silly activities,where we have to crush our brains
 we may have attempted once or twice and then resigned to the proverb.once bitten twice shy.
I also fall into one of the category or all of them,so many times skipped these items without any attempts.
It was a Sunday,after,making sure that there's nothing more to read or stare at i had flung the news paper,on the cot.My daughter who is normal ally a late riser on Sunday grabbed the paper and unfortunately started putting her hands on the crossword puzzle,suddenly solving crossword, which was till than rated as a useless stuff became very important to me (I had to establish that I was better or at least as smart as my daughter) WE ALWAYS WANT TO FIGHT BATTLES WITH WEAK OPPONENTS AND CLAIM THEM AS GREAT VICTORIES!!  So now both of us were using our synergy to complete the blocks.
SO far so good, we could see that we were filling up boxes and the once plane boxes were now filled with some alphabets,having exhausted our ability,we resigned that nothing further could be done and gave up,and started doing other activities of the day,however the unfinished crossword was lingering on the backdrop And every time I happened to see that paper again,I started scanning the clues, whether I can crack some and to my surprise I found that different words were opening up at various point of time.And at some point I was almost amazed to see that 90% of the puzzle was filled.

 which made me happy and also made me to draw some conclusions analogous to life

Many times we never venture into new activities,be it sports/business/hobby ,or studies,
fearing that we may not have the required knowledge or skill,by giving a try nothing is lost,we may not get 100% results in the first trial,but we may see that with persistent efforts may hit the Targets

Life too poses us with different problems and might be we would really knot know where to start or which to do first,lets us start the process from what ever we know and by solving three known problems,you will find the fourth one is already solved.

When we give a little time  and relook at the problem,new perspective and new ideas flip from some where,which means the solutions are hidden ,some where within us,with the right type of probing we can unearth them.
Well after spending considerable time solving them,I just scrolled down a bit further,where I found the printing,"ANSWERS TO THIS CROSSWORD AT PAGE ...,WHICH WAS JUST THE REVERSE OF THE PRESENT PAGE"

It gave a momentary relief,because I could rate myself, whether,I had done the job correctly,But at the same time the thrill of solving the crossword was lost,Because your other side of the brain was always chattering and saying why make guesses?why should you be thinking so much?its a easy way out,turn the page and confirm.Why waste your time and energy? AND also reminded what a drab life can be if we had ready made solutions to every thing.Because,  we  lose interest in any object or person or A relationship,the moment we posses it or if we are sure to find it.
Very beautifully penned by kavingar Kannadasan,  "KANNUKU AZAGHU ETHUVARAI KAYIL KEDAIKUM NAAL VARAI"(worth/ value/charm or importance of any object or person is felt,only till such time that its not possed by you).
So life is made interesting not by having everything that we want,But by earnestly making efforts to get what we want,ant still having a big wishlist to chase and Achieve,which should be a continious process....Making life much memorable and challenging

WE REAP WHAT WE SOW

God cannot be present everywhere and that’s why he made  Mothers, this is an adage that exist even today and I think is followed to a certain extent ,only till such time that we are independent and are on our own. And parents become useless,nagging,and an mere punching bag to us,for all our problems.

Remember the days of our growing up, Mothers were the only soul who stood by us taking all insults and bashing, protecting us from whatever small or big trouble,basking us with praise that we are their treasure and we would defenitely be a pillar of support on whom they can lean in their old age.
Above all, recall how possessive she was /is that she ever believes that her son/daughter CAN NEVER be on the side of injustice.or can never be wrong 

Recall the days when mothers rush to the neighbors/schools/shops etc when something is uttered about their child and so confidently argue, saying you say a thousand thing about my child ,but I know what my child is ,and I believe he/she would not do or act like this.
 Well how many of us give the same credit to our Mother/Father  AND SAY a loud, You say a thousand things about my Mom/Dad, I know about her/him, They are not capable of saying or doing it? Well we would have definitely said like this and stood by them, only till such time that we got married, Because we have passed over the right of certifying our Parents character to our spouses, and at a later stage to our kids

Why? and what make us to erase all the goodness what we received at their behest and throw them and treat them more shabbily than a beggar?

Is it that the feeling of taking care of them once they becomes a dependent on us is seen as a big burden  and as a preventive step we want to keep them away?

Why are we losing our rational thinking process and judgmental powers, which we are so good at when we deal officially,  and so biased when we deal with our parents?

Why  are we not even giving them the minimum respect and love what we are generous to show towards, dogs and  cats, which we deny them.

When we know that every coin has two faces and every part of the story has two narrations, why does it so happen that, the Narration given about our mother/parents  is always true and we pass on the judgment, so very instantaneously, abusing them and accusing them for everything on earth, right from the mistake of bring us to this blessed world .

Well I am remained about a old  widowed lady, who stayed, our next  door, She would have been at least in her seventies, with wrinkled skin covering her skeleton, draped in a 9 yard faded cotton sari blouse less, who was a dependent on her lone son who was supporting his big family. After inheriting his father’s job. The lady was never allowed to enter the house, and her living was mostly restricted to the last door step of their house.

We had never seen her treated with food ,clothing or shelter, But she had a sense of responsibility that as dawn broke, she would set off with a broken bamboo basket to collect cow  dung  that’s littered by stray cows and Buffalo's,

Once the collection was copious she would set off to convert them into cow dung cakes to meet the fuel requirements of the house. So she never wanted to lead a life of uselessness, but her presence or existence was never acknowledged by her son, daughter in law or grand children. She never had a daughter and I don’t know whether life would have been better had she had one or it would have been more horrible

Only rarely when she was either sick or under distress, she would keep Wailing softly calling  out her son’s name or that of her grand children, for a glass of water or coffee. Her son who was naturally hard of hearing, never responded to her cries or might be( he was  turning a deaf ear, as many of us do)She would be encountered by a rude shock, when one of her grandson would emerge and give her two kicks at her butt, and yell Aye Kezavi(old lady)  can’t you keep quite. Why the hell are you wailing?

Pain, topped with humiliation would silence the old lady, who would return to her spot of cow dung heap to be dried in the sun along with the  dung.

What surprised us than, was the silence and non intervention of her son, who never questioned any one for treating his mother so badly , .The man never had any misunderstanding or discord with his family towards, such a shabby treatment meted out to his Mother. We knew that old lady was given a raw deal .and We  IMAGINED OR WOWED THAT our mother/parent would never come across such a situation, FOR WE WERE GOOD CHILDREN AND OUR MOTHER WAS BRINGING US UP WITH VALUES.

Well we have up kept  this principle, only till such time that we did not have  a family of our own, and this Anathema of mistrust and ill treating has become a norm in every family(if any one screams and say no I do not fall in this category, He or she would be the biggest hypocrite).

We really do not  know when this genesis  has sprouted to treat our own people so were shabbily and  clue less about how this anemia can be rooted  out,Any way let us stand by the principle Every body’s  Dignity is to be given due respect, when we cannot give our Parents dignity to live, Let us atleast extend the courtesy of allowing them to die in peace

After all every child/son/daughter, daughter in law  today are either fathers and mother now or are going to be  Fathers and Mothers of tomorrow, Awaiting to be served with the same serving and to  reap what  we have sowed

80/20 principle

I am(rather we are) listening,hearing ,seeing ,reading various topics that are discussed day in and day out,FDI in retail,Economical slowdown,Recession,Revival of economy, Private- Public partnership,Scams, Democratic /economic reforms ,Revolutions and public out  cry on the States policy,Heated debates are going on ,On methods of improving one of these issues or to introduce methods to implement some or all of these measures so that life of ordinary man will flourish?Government would have had the satisfaction of having met? The aspiration of people who have elected them(aam- aadmi), The country would become one amongst economically strong Nation.
Well even though, these are never ending Businesses, what the government has to execute. and I have nothing else  to do but just thinking and sinking in my thoughts, looking out of my car window ,while I had a drive of Around 200 kms to see my parents and  was returning  back,what caught my attention,were besides the array of houses and a few organised work establishments,the entire stretch was occupied with small vendors,selling petty items, ranging from scissors,handkerchiefs,fish,flowers,garments,furniture,repair workshops,etc,etc on the pavements,slightly bigger ones  (only because they were housed in a 5/5 or 5/10 shops)  doing similar business,druggist,cell pone accessories,motor spare parts,stationary stores,fancy stores  mutton stalls  etc,
and yet bigger establishments of textiles/eateries etc,but the presence of all commodities crisis, cross were interesting and also evoked some soul searching questions?
Can we say that this is the group that has been orphaned by both private, including the government in enabling them get a sustained  income by means of providing a job?

Can we say that this is a group of individual ,who are self content(because i couldn't see them doing huge business)with what ever they earn, which has made them,stick on with these establishments as their livelihood,even thou it might be a hand to mouth existence

Can we say that these people are more confident and sure that, a government job or a Permanent fixed income is not necessary to support them and have ignored the presence of such institutions of support.

Can we say that they have resigned to the awkward destiny of their fate that they have decided to live in this penury,for generations to come.

Can we say that this is a group of incorrigible people who believe they can never accept a boss over them and are happy bossing them selves Knowing that the Government is not for them or their welfare

Well while extrapolating these groups and plotting the normal office goes.in private as well as government establishment,revealed that they were falling into a preconceived pattern of 80/20 principle.

Well it was in theyear 1906 sir,Vilfredo Pareto the renowned economist,established a set pattern which is applied worldwide that fits into this distribution.for example,we spend 80%of our day doing unimportant things and do qualitative things only 20% of the day.
In factories/office /household,its 20%of population which helps completing 80%of the out put,while 20%is responsible for 80% of output.
In a class you may find 20%of the students falling in the group of Nerds and the remaining 80% being Average performers.
Even in our thought process we spend 80%of our energy worrying about trivial issues,while 20 %is spent on important  issue.
 The principle of Pareto is widely used in Manufacturing and other establishments This is one of the reason that if we do A 20% Quality check on finished goods where we are sure of meeting 80% of the possible defects and certify that 100% checks are done
So also in organisations 20% of posts are managerial ,while 80%goes down below,well are you people guessing why I have travelled away from  my thought process?
 Well its these 80%of people who are employed in such unorganized sectors, who have elected  This Government(who never seem to get  cared by it) and who hardly contribute 20% towards its Economy. While the Government works to ensure the safety and stability of 20%of the people who hold the key for 80% of economical growth,who have grabbed all Major infrastructures, that's the Reason,why all policy of the Govt have very little impact on the common man,cause he is not the target population for reforms.
Here too the reforms are skewed 20% towards,the below poverty line,who are the 80% of vote bank80% of reforms for the 20%population holding major industries,because 80%of funding to run elections are to come from them
well if we stretch this concept of  80/20,Principle, we might find that it would occupy all Areas,yes before I conclude,even though our brain which is so small hardly weighing less than 500 gms,takes 20%of the blood circulation of our system and controls 80%of our Activity.So scheduling our priorities accordingly would make our life more easier

ARAKKONAM

 Arakkonam the topic of my blog would have ringed strange in our ears,if it had been written a few months back.But n0w it has already gained popularity,due to a Movie,that is slated for release
I would really like to complement the Director(who is still unknown ) ,for having chosen this title for his movie to be released shortly, I was just listening to an Advertisement about this movie. and grew intrested
 for the simple reason that Arakkonam has been  my adopted home town that's been familiar for me for  a few decades.
Arakkonam by itself has under gone a lot of change right from its name logy of ARKONAM (TAUGHT  to pronounce as ahkonam,by my primary anglo teachers) to Arakkonam,besides increasing its schools from a handy 4 to around 50 and also having a dozen colleges,while we had to depend on Chennai or kanceepuram for our Continuation beyond schooling's.
Arakkomam is neither a small village nor a big city ,but defined as a town and has an inhabitant varying between 1 to 1.3 lakhs, Of course its well connected by rail and road, Around 70 kms from Chennai Is
 the mid point for the famous temples of Tirrutanni/Kancepuram/Sholingur,Has had an air field in 1942 used during world war II,Occupies a Place in history, since this is the place to have had third rail route put up and run,between madras and Arakkonam.Has a place called Thakkolam,which was the battlefield used by the Cholas/pallavas and currently has the honor of having the largest military runway in Asia "Rajali "naval air base  Not a highly literate place,but has been a hub supporting students, from near by villages,and with schools of good repute, which was attended by our President of INDIA sh RADA KRISHNAN , ,and the first school run by anglo Indians ,for Railways in the country. With a sizesable settlement of Anglo Indians .
Had a small Industrial complex,comprising 7 to 8 workshops.One of the main source of employement for many was/ is the Railway work shop ,Ramco Cements .And  the steel plant. Arakkonam junction(Railway station )has been used by film makers on a few occassion,might be because  of lesser traffic ordeals.
Well I guess this  intro on Arakkonam would suffice for any stranger,who wants to have a demographic idea about the place and does not have any thing quite unique to recall,other than being very near and accessible to the Great Metro city Chennai.
Well,my curiosity is increasing to know what can be the story line/plot of this Movie, Does it Begin in  Arakkonam and end in Arakkonam,Well,who can be that lucky subject  for  this film, or what can be the incident around which the story line is entwined with.
Does it describe one of those romantic love stories that travel from Arakkonam to chennai by Jolarpettai express and end with a happy ending/or otherwise

Is it about the intresting travel time of one hour between chennai toArakkonam and back by the same train,were you can really have a demonstrative class on time management,where lessons are read,  home works completed,hair dried and platted,the ladies have their final touches of make up before alighting,busy office goers skillfully chopping the vegetables required for cooking for their morning pack ups,skillfully,making malas of jasmine, while a word by word narration on either the naughty boss or troublesome supervisor goes on or a more descriptive narration of the difference of opinion what prevails bet ween her and her husband is narrated to her yet to be married freind,who starts giving her inexperienced expert coments of handling the situation.OR A silly fight which starts as a word of exchange for adjusting and leavinge a small place to accomodate his wife or kid on the already crampped seat, which carries on till you reach the last destination,  OR a day to  day account on the town entouring all the govt/private establishments and giving a count by count of the story and the life style of the people their,
Is it going to talk about a suddenly sprung rich contractor ,who ultimately died alone when all his money was gone and left to be cremenated in a shabby way.
Will it talk about the educated Freindship that still exists between the educated friend and his street pal, who sits selling corriander inthe bazaar,
Does it have a police officer,who once tried  to reform,the place with his reforms
or has the usual narration of two groups of rivalry that end up  attacking each other and killing themselves

Does it have the goresome incident, when a tanker load of petrol was on fire on the tracks,which exploded,causing people in far flung villages too to sit out a full night,not knowing what would follow next.

Will  it talk about the well dressed and angloised indians,their culture and their extinct.?
Would it talk about a full day within the campus of the naval air base and the quality life of the military persons?
Would it talk about the rise and fall of congress party, which was launched by our former Prime minister Mrs Gandhi personally,and the heros who stood by her.?
Will it have the never repaired subway and the newly constructed court which would remain as land marks describe Arakkonam,or will  it gives an account about the once huge lakes and water bodies and the catch of fishes which strived as a business ,which is no more.
well I have such questions being asked, and would really like to see through ,which window the Director of the Movie has tried to show Arakkonam to a Larger population,which knows nothing more about this small town besides being a Major Railway junction,where you are sure that the train would stop,for you to refresh yourself with a magazine and snacks.And meet the request of your nagging son or spouse,who had wanted some thing on their long journey,where you would have promised let Arakkonam come.

OWNERS PRIDE-NEIGHBOURS ENVY

I hope by now many of us would have forgotten,these numbers   38  27  23 and 0 2  4(its definetily not some telephone no or a winning lottery no or the size of any of our celebrity).It is the final tally of Medals won by China our neighbouring country in the order of gold ,silver,and bronze  and the adjoining numbers is that of our Mother land
well there is nothing to accuse  us,if we have forgotten, because,in our busy life  wth problems galore it is quite understandable, that we could give only a partly  attention  to these events and than switch over to much presenting situations and events drawing our attention.
well I was reminded about our fantastic(?)performance in the Olympics 2012. At least half the population of our country are enthralled by the pride of we bagging six medals.Lets not belittle our Hero's ,who have saved our pride they deserve our praise and recognition,But our neighboring country having and sharing all similar strength and weakness as ours showed a mighty performance,which we can match only in our dreams.(perhaps recall a advertisement where a small boy comes and says amma i came 2nd in the running race, where the mother is thrilled and treats him with sweets,while the father asks how many people participated and the boy will say 2)
While some news channels were discreetly discussing about our dismal performance in the OLYMPICS and as usual,doing a postmortem for the probable reasons for our poor show.(WE are always ready to fix responsibility after allowing mistakes to happen)
Well, the reasons what were attributed were quite genuine and  acceptable,like
i)We are capable to prove some thing as an individual,but fail collectively,when we are a team,very
true,because all the six medals  what came through was only in individual events (A typical Indian crab scene)
2)The next argument that was placed were regarding ,not having the backing of good coaches,because we are not prepared to give them the right kind of re-numerations,And the coaches in turn do not have the required motivation and drive to achieve desired results
well this again can be accepted,because we are over cautious in extending a penny more ,when it comes to some one else .As we are bread with a lot of conservative ideas.
The next in line was that
3)There is no real seriousness in the selection process,which is not transparent,which is more skewed and laced with discretion and nepotism,where by the just and talented lot are not considered,while people with lesser talents find their way."Very true"we can see this even in small ,small selection process,so cannot be ruled out.
But after  these soul searching facts, are we going to overcome these hurdles and put a brave
face in the forth coming Olympics" NO" Why?Because these are very minor things for us to feel
ashamed of,"After all we do not process  the gene of sucess and victory"

I know there may be a cry of denial that this is a very generalistic statement and we as individuals are far superior and quite sucessful,but if we believe that as per darwins theory we are the decendents of our fore fathers,we will agree that ours was the only country that has been  invaded
and ruled by kings of different clans,from the Portugese,French, Britisher,Mugals(persians)
and than the different dynasty's kanishka, Gupta, Ashoka .etc. ect ,which means we are capable of surrendering without a fight or its in our blood that we underestimate the strength of our opponents or we never prepare ourself fot the inevitable,which is carried forward, or not enhancing our skills in tune with our opponents and that's why I said we do not contain the winning gene.

Well leaving these things,how many of us have really seen a Hockey stick in its physical form,
After all it is our National game.To be very frank I have seen them only on the silver screen(cinema).Many times for the wrong reason ,as a handy weapon used by villians in movies.And for once with a positive note in Chakde india.Why is it that we have not really cared about this game?Is it too complicated than cricket and tennis? well I have no answers but only feel its time that we choose some other game in which we have a edge and declare it as our National game.So that atleast we would be proud to put our heads High with winning a gold in our "national game.'"
While just musing over this I was intrested to know what are the sports accessories I have at home
well I  could sight two table tennis raquets a few batamintion bats a few shuttle cock,a volley ball
and a tenni coit ,well these are there even thou there no serious sports person at home.and I an sure that many houses would definetly have a cricket bat,stumps,pads and ball(after all its a pride to play cricket) or at least to identify our self with cricket But note that no house sports a hockey stick, even for monumental reasons,just for the sake that its a OUR NATIONAL GAME.So with this back ground when are we going to get a gold  in Olympics? for our National game.The only thing that can happen would be that Hockey is scraped from the list of games hosted and some thing else subsitute.as our national came.
When I was stormed with such mixed feelings of helpless- ness I was just viewing yet another TV programme,were a guest dignitary is posted with a question by the host ,which is the favourite game that you play ?  well I was eager to know the response and was shocked ,when She said" Diamond rush" MIGHT BE ON HER MOBILE OR I PHONE.so ultimately now  OUR ATTITUDE towards games has been  restricted to a few  movements of our nimble fingers,so why dream  about a huge rally of medals, lets always be the envious neighbor and leave the pride for others